How to Help Stop Domestic Violence/Sexual Violence in Your Own Community

You Can Help An Individual Victim of Violence

If someone you know is suffering from domestic or sexual violence, refer them, as appropriate, to:

• The local police and if in immediate danger:  call 911.
• BWIC Hotline, for support, information, shelter, counseling, legal assistance: 610-372-9540 (English) or 610-373-7463 (Spanish)
• The nearest medical facility if they are injured.

Domestic violence is no longer viewed as a “private” or “family” problem. Domestic violence is a public health concern and social issue that affects the entire community. Victims of both sexual violence and domestic violence suffer from negative judgements and actual revictimization by those they turn to for help. We each have the responsibility to reach out to victims, to help them get the help and support they need to heal, and generally to help stop the violence.

If you know someone who is in an abusive situation, or you believe that they are in an abusive situation, let her know that you care, that you are willing to listen, and that she is not alone. Give her emotional support by focusing on her strengths. Guide her to community services, confront her with the danger if appropriate, and help her develop a safety plan to protect herself and her children.

Let her know that domestic violence is a crime, and she can seek legal protection.

Realize that she may leave the relationship and return to it several times before she is able to make the final break. Don’t judge her. There are many reasons why women return to abusive partners, not the least of which is the fact that they are more likely to be in danger of harm when they attempt to end the relationship.

A helpful book is "To Be An Anchor in the Storm: A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women" by Susan Brewster.

How You Can Help Stop Institutional and Societal Violence

You can make a difference by practicing "zero tolerance." Speak out against violence everywhere you find it: in the interactions of people around you, on television, in movies, and in music. Speak up for non-violent means of resolving conflicts. Speak up and be a role model for healthy relationships, positive interactions, and teaching children respect, non-violence, and feeling good about themselves.